Things from an Ex

I guess I still have alot of questions about the past. I feel like i’ve moved on…but of course you never know for sure.

What should I do with things that he had given me? should I throw them out? donate them to charity? sell them? burn them?

Is it really necessary to do SOMETHING? The really sentimental and romantic things are in the closet, there are some stuffed animals and things i use like an ab roller and speakers that I keep out, I dont want to throw them away because it would cost me about 100$ to buy them again.

There are a few more stuffed animals in the closet and some jewelry I’m not wearing, and some decorative things and a photo album that I’m also keeping in the closet. Is it really necessary to get rid of them in one way or another? Would it help in getting over him? or would it just add to the emptiness?

Some have said that it’s okay to keep them, to go back to them in a few years and feel that the 3 years you spent wasn’t a waste of your time, that you have laughed and cried and made mistakes and learned. I feel like this would be the best way to deal with things. Because the three years I had been with him, it’s pretty much been him, he was pretty much my life, I dont want my three years to completely disappear.

I’m an adult and I can admit that I’m not over it, that it’s going to take some time, and time only, it doesnt need some drastic action that makes the three years of my life disappear. I’ve put the memories away already, out of sight, but just knowing that it’s there is a comfort. I know it’s over and i’m not trying to make things work anymore, i’m moving on, it just will take some time to get my mind straight.

~ by icyblueme on December 22, 2008.